Put down your smart phone or ipad! I have spoken with so many couples who are struggling with their marriage and often times one of them will say “I wish he would put down his phone and talk to me instead of checking the latest sports stats all the time.” “I wish she would put her phone away while we’re watching a show together instead of being more interested in what’s on Facebook than what’s going on in the show.”
When we are on our phone when our spouse is trying to talk with us or spend time with us, what is that communicating? It is communicating that “What I am looking at on this phone is more important than you.” That is not a good message to send to your spouse. That is a message that will wear cracks in your marriage over time.
A recent study said that the more you use your phone the less secure your spouse will feel in the relationship. Be a blessing to your spouse and put down the phone when they are talking with you or want to spend time with you. [http://time.com/4311202/smartphone-relationship-cell-phone/]
The bottom line is God tells us to “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ” in Ephesians 5:21. Part of submitting to one another is putting away our own selfishness during a conversation and giving our spouse 100% of our attention. Part of loving your spouse is giving them the attention they desire.
Your spouse doesn’t want to talk to the top of your head. Your spouse doesn’t want to watch a show or movie with you and every time something funny happens you lift up your head from your phone and say ”What? What happened? What’s so funny?” Improve your marriage today by putting away the smart phone and talk to your spouse.
Pastor Chad Starfeldt
Pastor Chad Starfeldt was installed at Shepherd of the Hills in June of 2012.